8 ways to stop comparing yourself to others.

Hello lovelies, another week has passed, and a lot has happened, I have had a lot of good things happen (as you may have seen on my Instagram) but as always there have been some tough days and moments. and all of that is okay. I have many things that I need to work on within myself one of these things is my issues with comparing myself to others.

This is a very common problem that can cause many problems, but it is also so hard to break the habit luckily there are many ways that you can start to stop the comparison. So, I’ll give you 9 ways to stop comparing yourself to others. But first I wanted to say that this is so hard to stop. It can. Be so hard to even begin the journey to stop yourself from comparing. Another thing to remember is that you are amazing, gorgeous and beautiful just the way you are.

Breaking the habit.

The first way is to simply be aware that you are making comparisons. Knowing that you are making these comparisons is the first step to making the change when you bring these comparisons into your consciousness it then brings those thoughts to the front of your mind and focusing on when you do this will soon become nature and it will be impossible not to notice yourself doing this.

After you realise that you are making these comparisons the next way is to simply stop yourself. When you find yourself making a comparison pause for a second don’t feel bad for making those comparisons but simply try to change your focus onto a different subject.

The next step to take is to find your own positives. It’s not about what anyone else has or how long it takes people to do this. What matters is your own accomplishments, and you should count what you have instead of what you don’t. try to focus on how lucky you have and the good things within your life. This allows you to find positives in your own life that isn’t relative to anyone or anything else.

Another way to combat the comparison is to focus on your strengths. It is so hard to be our biggest critics and fins our own weaknesses, but each person has so many strengths. Mine are that I am strong, I am healthy, I am talented and there are so many more. What are yours? Find them and be proud of them, because finding your strengths can help in so much in life. And they are what allows you to grow and be kind to yourself.

One way to stop comparing yourself to others s to be okay with imperfections. It’s easy to focus s on the perfect version of yourself that you wish you could be, but no one is perfect. Perfect is a fictional standard that no one will ever be able to achieve, and the concept is stupid. You in yourself are perfectly imperfect we all are. You can try to improve yourself and be better, but you will never b e able to achieve the person that is perfect in your mind. The imperfections are what make you who you are and that in itself is amazing.

When we compare ourselves to others it can be really easy to knock others down and criticize those around us but taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. You end up forming enemies when you could form friends. It hurts others as well as yourself in the long run. It may prove difficult, but you must try to support those around you and their successes as it leads to them feeling supported and you gaining success.

The way I have been dealing with comparing myself is to focus on my personal journey. I try not to focus on how I rank compare to others. It’s hard to realise but life isn’t a competition it’s a journey and a personal one that we are all on. This journey is to find something, be something, learn or create and this journey has nothing to with anyone else and everything to do with us and our own personal goals. I focus on my journey and the things that I am going through rather than compare myself to others around me because each person has their own journey and demons.

The final way is to learn to love more. If you always want what others have then you will never have enough and never been satisfied. It is a cycle that will never end, and it is a cycle that will not lead to happiness. Instead of comparing it may be time to realise that what you have is already enough. If you have shelter, food, clothes and people around you who love you. you’re blessed you have enough, anything you have more than that is more than enough be happy with what you have you you’ll find that your life is much more content.

So, her is your weekly check-in.

How is your journey going?

What setbacks have you faced this week?

What has been your biggest challenge?

Is stress something that you need to work on?

What is your goal for this week?

Do you struggle with making comparisons?

Is this helpful to you?

So remember that comparison is the thief of joy and you deserve so much joy in your life.

I hope you know how amazing and loved you are.

- Laney

Xoxo