Positivity the Process the Progress and the Practice.

laneyfaithmesa
Apr 2, 2021
3 min read

Hi lovelies, this week was the biggest step to normalcy that the UK has taken in a long time, normality seems to be just around the corner which brings about a whole new set of emotions, feelings and anxieties (for me a

t least).

So as always, I’ll be completely honest, a few days this week I have felt defeated and depressed to the point of almost no return. But here we are life keeps going, the world keeps spinning and I keep going. This was followed by a few days of sun, happiness and productivity so the perfect week to sum up the start of my journey to be a better me.

So here it goes! Prior to starting documentation, I had already started daily affirmations (which I put on Tik Tok- @laneyfaithmesa) and I had already figured out what I wanted from my journey. Most importantly I want to be happy being me, I want to look in the mirror and like what I see. I wanted to partly be the way I was, confident and looked at the world with a less depressed lens. But I also want to be something different entirely, someone that isn’t afraid to be myself, where what I want and be who I want. This is a slow-moving process but knowing where I am going is a good start.

Positivity

Being positive is something that a lot of people strive for, this is definitely something that seems incredibly far away for me. So why is a PMA (positive mental attitude) just a good thing to have. Well, the mental benefits are hard to ignore. They include lowering rates of depression and distress and gaining better coping skills during hard times and times of stress. And if that’s not enough it can improve cardiovascular health, increase life span and even provides a great resistance to the common cold. Having a PMA doesn’t mean ignoring the bad because there is bound to be bad days and events that are hard, it means taking a less negative approach to thinking especially when in negative situations.

Wow that’s great; but it’s much easier said than done and I for one have tried before and not been able to see it through (I told you, complete honesty).

I have found that after research and trying out different things that, for now, what works for me is daily positive affirmation, gratitude check before bed, reading before bed, not ignoring or burying things that make me unhappy and most importantly believing in my success.

Positivity in practice.

It’s all well and good saying I’m going to be positive but how exactly will I be doing this? So, my main way to a PMA is consistency. And in all honesty, I know that having consistency and a routine the best way to do this, but I am awful at sticking to it. I am one of those people that has a million alarms throughout the day just so I know what the time is. So how am I (little miss hopeless with time) going to remember to do my daily affirmations every morning, my gratitude check before bed and all the other things I need to do to be on my way to a PMA? Well eventually I hope that it will become almost muscle-memory but for the mean time while I’m still figuring it out, I will set alarms: one for just after I wake up and one just after my alarm to tell me to go to bed (I told you I have alarms for everything).

As for the future, well; I’ll continue to have no expert information to give you other than my opinions and experiences. Positivity is something that I’ve wanted for myself for a long time and it is the thought of allowing myself to become more positive and stop holding myself down that lets me know that I’m definitely on the right track.

§ So, consider this your weekly check in:

§ Have you started your journey?

§ Have you thought about starting your journey?

§ Is positivity important to you?

§ And what are you going to do this week to reach your goal?

I am continuing to hope that my journey is helping you to help yourself.

But again, this is not easy, no journey is. But if you want to follow along and maybe start a journey of you own,